I’ve been in relationships since I was 15. And each time, for whatever reason, I choose to date someone who isn’t in my immediate vicinity. Nor are they a short drive away. They tend to be at least an hour away.
The first, was a guy from my high school. We began dating, and conveniently saw each other in school and occasionally on the weekends. Then, after two years of being together, we went to university. He went to one in Scotland, I went to one in the south of England. From here things got difficult. We tried to see each other every three weeks, but it was expensive and time consuming, with either an hour long plane ride (+ travel time to and from the airport) costing anywhere between £119-300+, or several 8 hour train journeys that weren’t cheap either. This relationship ended in February 2017.
Next, is my current boyfriend. He’s originally from the West Midlands, and I’m from North Wales. It’s about a 150 mile distance, or three hours by train or car. He goes to University 1.5 hours from where I went, and because we were fairly busy we saw each other every two weeks, or sometimes three. Then, because he still has another year left, it’s gone up to about 200 miles.
This weird limbo is what I call a ‘middle-distance relationship’. It doesn’t compare to the 1000s of miles that some couples have to go through, but equally it’s harder than a typical relationship. You cannot see your partner every night, they can’t physically be there for you. And sometime’s it’s hard. But I’m creating this blog because I want to help. I’ve had almost six years of this limbo. Everything from date ideas, my struggles, how to keep the magic alive, I’m going to discuss it.
So thank you, and good luck.
E x
Middle Distance Relationships 